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Assembling a “bucket list” for the St. Louis Bloggers Blog Carnival #7 apparently stimulates my mind.
Contemplating the list brought to mind three things:

One. What would I put on my list? (this is a given)

Two. How different would the contents of this list be only ten years ago?

Three. I have lived a lot in my 32 years. Even if I don’t accomplish all the things I would like put on a bucket list, I really can’t bitch much. I have done a lot and seen a lot…of course that doesn’t mean I don’t hope to do more.

Fortunately, I plan on kickin’ it (a)live for a long, long time. If I get hit by a bus tomorrow, it better back it up a couple of times because I am not going out that easy. Yeah, I still have a touch of the “indestructible youth” syndrome…or so it would seem.

I digress, don’t I always?

So, here is my bucket list:

  • sky dive
  • walk/hike the Great Wall (camping on it would be even better)
  • snorkeling the Great Barrier Reef
  • taking an African Safari
  • going to Iceland to visit the Phallic Museum, glaciers, swimming outdoors in a geothermally heated pools and whale watching.
  • learning to snowboard, not just doing it but doing it well
  • para-sailing and/or hang gliding
  • going to Alaska while it is daylight for 24 hours
  • sing in front of an audience, preferably getting paid to do it (technically I have done it many times, just not for a paycheck)
  • write a book and have it published
  • procreate
  • love me for me…unconditionally (it is the unconditional part that is giving me such difficulty)

Ten years ago, I would not have ’procreate’ on the list. I would have ‘live alone and be okay with it’, ‘be alone and not be lonely’, ‘learn to say “no”‘, ‘marry best friend’, ‘move out of St. Louis’, and ‘find my career niche’ added to the above list.

I hope to get to do all of the things on my list before kicking the bucket and I hope to add things to the list as I get older, and (preferably) wiser, and that I am continually able to complete those items as long as I am still taking in air.

When I think about everyone out there making their bucket lists, I really hope that these lists aren’t full of regrets or setting them up for regrets when they are old.  I hope everyone is capable of making these things happen and having full, fun lives.

I think I will share my outlook on life with all of you now, as it seems oddly appropriate. You will probably think I am crazier than you already think I am. But it gets me through the days…so here it is:

Life sucks sometimes. It is also the most incredibly amazing gift to be alive. Live hard, love hard, try not to hurt people along the way (including yourself). Remember everything, even the really sucky stuff because it is the sucky stuff that makes the good times even better. Don’t live in the past just because you remember it. Regret nothing, even if you would do it different if given another chance. Most important, never give up.

That’s all folks!


This is some seriously weird shit.

Tom Cruise, and Scientology altogether if this is the result of immersing yourself into this religion, is completely insane!

He doesn’t even make sense! It is creepy. I actually had to read the quoted text in order to understand half of what he’s mumbling about and even after reading it, it is nothing more than babbling nonsense.

Ahh, but the parodies are the best. This one cracked me up, this one is just completely ate up, and this one with Jerry O’Connell is the most accurate impersonation (in my opinion). They are really all funny, check out many of them here.

The only thing creepier than Tom Cruise and Scientology is the dream I had last night about Cameron Diaz. All I can say for sure is that I woke up disoriented and that the dream involved Cameron, drug usage, sex and golf. And I don’t really like golf, so I have no idea what that was all about….

But WAIT, there’s MORE! This is also the week of prying gross things out of Chini’s mouth. In order to truly comprehend how gross this task actually is, you must know two things. First, when I am walking with the dogs, rarely is there gloves or tissues available with which to keep from having to touch gross things with my bare hands. Second, when Chini gets a hold of something she is not about to give it up easily, specifically if she is not supposed to have it.

So, without further ado, I pulled what I believe to be petrified poop out of Chini’s mouth yesterday and (wait for it) a dead, rotten fish from her locked jaws the day before.

The fish thing was a first for me, as it isn’t likely to find a dead, rotten fish laying around in the ‘burbs of St. Louis…unless, of course, the neighbors toss an overcooked Filet O’ Fish sandwich into the yard.

Oh, I almost forgot something funny, yet creepy, that occurred twice this past weekend. I really thought Cybr would have mentioned it considering how hysterical his impromptu rendition of the event was, but maybe he will elaborate…

We are laying in bed with the dogs and cats when outside our flat (which is water and rarely do we get visitors on that side) we hear what sounds like a man speaking in Cantonese using a megaphone to deliver propaganda. It was rather funny, unexpected, and eerie all at the same time. What’s funnier is that we both thought it sounded like the exact same thing. Then, once we were finished laughing and looking to see where in the harbor it was coming from, Cybr began his performance of delivering communist propaganda which sent me into yet another fit of laughter. He is pretty funny, you know.

  • Arriving to our layover stop at LAX with food poisoning due to our yummy in flight meal and spending most of my 3 1/2 hour layover in the toilet.
  • During our layover at LAX, I mentioned to Cybr that his cousin that lives in L.A. may be on the same flight to St. Louis for the big family holiday party.  He said it was unlikely we would be leaving at the same time from L.A, much less on the same airline.  I said we should still keep an eye out.  Him and his girlfriend sat two seats behind me on the flight, but due to lack of sleep I didn’t notice until disembarking.  See, women really do have intuition.
  • Christmas Eve was spent with Cybr’s extended family (his father’s side), as they have a big gathering every year.  It was an enjoyable time, one we really looked forward to.  The only downside being that his step-mom got really, really sick.
  • Christmas Day we spent with Cybr’s mom and step-dad.  It was a quiet, relaxing day with a delicious dinner.
  • We drove to Southeast Missouri to see my family on 26 December and were greeted by my nieces.  Hugging my dad and hugging the girls was long overdue.  It was nice to have them all in one place waiting for my arrival.
  • While out in the country, we went to an auction.  Nothing like what you would see on TV, no…this is a junk auction.  You can find some interesting finds and some good deals, but mostly you find some real interesting characters.  We took my grandma and my youngest niece, Alyssa.  Grandma had fun and Alyssa turned out to be quite the bargain hunter.  She is only 10 years old, yet she placed bids and made a couple of purchases like an adult. I enjoyed her company very much that night.
  • Just before heading back to St. Louis we had a family dinner with my dad’s side.  I saw my grandma, my aunt, my cousin and her beautiful little girl.  It was so good to see them.
  • We rang in 2008 with Cybr’s mom and step-dad.  We had a few drinks and relaxed watching a movie.
  • 01 January 2008. We had dinner with Cybr’s dad and family, then we went to the Fabulous Fox to see Wicked.  Dinner was good, the show was good, the wind HURT it was sooooo cold that night.
  • We saw I Am Legend at the cinema and REALLY liked it.
  • We visited with several friends, including Mutha, Rev, and all their children.  It was a short visit, but we really wanted to see them and meet Juna and so we did.
  • I went by Beck/Allen Cabinetry to visit my friend Gret and all my former colleagues.  Several of us went for lunch, including my former boss, and it was so good to see them all.  I miss them! I even miss my job (sometimes)!
  • I said good-bye to Cybr and he returned to Hong Kong while I went on to Kansas City, MO to visit my dad for a week.  I actually got to spend some real time with him (I feel like he gets gypped on time when we visit in Southeast MO because I have so much family to see, plus he drives 7 1/2 hours to see me) and it was good to have some catch-up time with him, just the two of us.
  • From there, I went to Chicago to spend a week with my best friend Heather and her fam.  We didn’t do much, just hang out and spend time with her kids.  It was great.  We did get out and shop a bit and went to Curves to work out several times.  It was great, her kids are great, she is great.
  • Back to St. Louis for a couple of days awaiting my flight out to Hong Kong.  I spent the time at Cybr’s moms house, it went by very quickly.
  • Before I left, I met up with a dear friend of mine, Athena, that I haven’t seen in 10 years.  I had such a great time catching up on each other’s lives and reminiscing.  I am so glad she is back in my life and I hope it stays that way.
  • I learned to knit.
  • I was all except body cavity searched in St. Louis airport and L.A. airport security.  I think I may have mentioned how fun that was.
  • I arrived to Hong Kong just before Cybr left for work and was smothered in puppy kisses.

The End.

Same as previous Questions (see post below dated 25 Jan)…

But consider yourself having fertility issues, being high risk for carrying a child full term, and only having insurance that will NOT cover maternity or fertility assistance out of the U.S. (which leaves me with one option in HK and that is the public health system — which is technologically advanced, but would require that I have different docs every visit).

Considering this, what do you think?? I am curious if this scenario alters any opinions…

Reader Poll

Just curious of any/every one’s opinion while preparing to make a HUGE decision as whether or not to stay in Hong Kong beyond our original contract date of 2 years:

What do you think of having/raising a child in a foreign country?

What do you think about having a amah living with you and caring for your child?

Any comments, opinions, questions, concerns or thoughts are welcome.

Gaming Chair

I bought this nice (albeit slightly used) leather reclining chair with footrest, not too long ago, for my husband. He set up his XBOX in our computer room so that I can watch something besides his game on the living room television. Since he was so considerate of my needs, I thought I would return the favor by getting this bargain of a comfy chair for him to use for gaming. I paid a whopping $200 HKD (roughly $25 USD) for the chair and foot rest, so I was saving us money in addition to making the husband’s butt more comfortable.  I have much love for the discovery bay forum, that is where I found this bargain.

Then Francois B. Dioux Dioux took over the chair:



After traveling for what feels like a week, it sure is good to be home.  Especially to see all my fuzzy kids.

I seem to have a suitcase missing in action, apparently it didn’t make it on the correct flight.  As long as they find it, I don’t care.

I was all but body cavity searched in St. Louis and Los Angeles by airport security (not just for fun).  I had a minor disagreement with LAX security but wasn’t detained, so it must not have been too bad!

Lots of fun.  Can’t wait to do it again.  *deep sigh*

Must go love on my babies, bye for now…


I have spent so much time in airports in the past month that if I never see one again, it will be too soon.

I have been delayed everywhere except for Kansas City, that flight was on time and I only spent about an hour waiting to board. 

Everywhere else has had delays, so far none due to weather only due to maintenance issues.  I have had plenty of time to think and what I thought about is why there isn’t an extra airplane or two hanging around that actually work for just such an occasion as “maintenance trouble”.   If there was an extra working condition airplane they could use while they fix the troubled aircraft, then there would seemingly be fewer delays…unless, of course, all aircraft have maintenance issues and/or repairs that must be made making it impossible to have enough extras hanging around to do any good.

Although, I must say, that doesn’t make me feel any better about getting on a plane.